OMG, Agnes I am so sorry.... Hon, the only comfort u can find in this, is that he is free of pain....Remember the good and funny times... I know exactly what u r going thru...((HUGS))
Agnes, I am so sorry to hear this.. I have been just a follower for over a year, and only posted one time.. You have a beautiful spirit about you, and I will say a prayer for you today..
Agnes, I just learned the sad news, I send all my support and hope that your youth and your mental strength will help you overcome this difficult moment.
Agnes, he was at peace having the person who loved him most holding him as he left. I wish peace for you as you are held by those close to you and by us who are distant in miles but very close in love.
Marty
Agnes, so sorry to hear this. Despite knowing only what you put in this blog about you, my heart goes out to you, your family, and Geoff's family. I wish I could do something other than that, but I cannot unfortunately. I cannot even say "I know how it feels" because I do not. So, just take your time, do what you have to do and we'll be sure to wait for your next blog even if it's a few months from now.
Oh Agnes. I so hoped it would be good news. I am so sorry. I have no words. But I do have tears to shed with you. All I can offer you right now is a long-distance friendship. And hope. Be strong sweet Agnes. hugs xx
I am so sorry for your loss, your sorrow, your pain. Day by day is the way back, but it's a slow process. Geoff will always live in your heart and thoughts. The heartbreak will ease and joy will take its place as you recall your wonderful life together.
Oh, dear Agnes...my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry. Thank you so much for finding the strength to share this sad news with us. How beautiful (for both of you) that Geoff died in your arms.
Hugs and Prayers,
Susan
You were the very best wife and life's partner to Geoff, Agnes. You taught us all how to be loving and caring and strong. How to be better humans than we are.
Agnes, I am so sorry to read this. I have been thinking a lot about you lately. I know that no word will ease your pain. I am thinking of you. Remember the happy times. Geoff and your love for each other will always be there, in your heart.
hugs
lots of love,
Karine
I am so sorry Agnes, I had hoped that things would take a turn for the better. You have so many beautiful memories and I hope you can embrace those. My thoughts are with you.
Terribly sorry to hear this news. Having only been a follower for a short time, I could still see the deep love you both shared for one another. That is not gone.
Take care, thinking of you during this difficult time.
Dear Agnes...another long time (kinda) reader, first time poster. In tears over your loss, though, as others have said, I know only what you have revealed online and Geoff, less. I remembered however seeing a comment or two here and there from him. I think I like this one best...his words first: "Cancer doesn't scare me and the possibility of death doesn't frighten me. I simply feel that the diagnosis is a death sentence eventually, just like life is. It is the denial of time and energy that should be used to create the future that is the most difficult part...." and then he quotes Cicero: "Be sure that it is not you that is mortal, but only your body. For that man whom your outward form reveals is not yourself; the spirit is the true self, not that physical figure which can be pointed out by your finger." Thank you, Agnes for introducing us to Geoff. Though his body has been painfully torn away from you it's clear to even the casual reader your true selves, your spirits are even now forever united. God bless you as you grieve, mourn, reminisce, cry and hurt...and may you find comfort and solace in unexpected places.
Oh Agnes, no. I am so, so sorry. I know your heart must be breaking but I hope in time (and even now) the precious memories you have will sustain you and once again make you smile. Blessings to you and safe journey to Geoff.
Oh my gosh. I was just thinking about you yesterday. Really. I'm so sorry for your loss... There are no words. I have come to love and admire you guys so much through your blog and the things you share of your life. I'm sure you will find the strength, you are a strong woman that's for sure. Your blog is a beautiful documentation of your love and devotion to Geoff. Take good care of yourself, my dear. Big hug and kiss..
Agnes, my brother died in my arms 10 years ago. It's as emotional for me today as it was then. I know that these comments to you are probably a blur ... Hopefully a comfort ... But truly an outpouring of love from all your admirers. If you ever want to talk to another about this experience ... I would be happy to share. Much love, Joel
I know there are no words, but I still want to say I'm sorry. I am devastated to hear of your loss. Geoff was so lucky to have such a wonderful wife. Please take good care of yourself. {{{HUGS}}}
I am so very sorry Agnes! I was thinking of you the other night and prayed for you and Geoff before I fell asleep. I have to agree with the others who said that you and Geoff are soulmates and will meet again. Thank you for sharing your wonderful relationship with him on your blog. I loved reading his sweet, loving comments to you in the comment section. My heart just hurts for you and Geoff's family. I'll keep praying.
Agnes my love, literally I couldn't open your blog update email today. I just knew what it was going to say. Finally, after about 5 minutes I opened it and as soon as I saw your words I teared up. Saying I'm sorry for your loss just doesn't even come close to what I feel. Please know that I am here for you in ANY way. I'm sending you much love and hoping that your heart is able to heal with time.
Oh Agnes... I do not even know what to begin to say. This is such a irreplaceable loss. I remember being so touched by the comments he left you, the love.... his beautiful spirit. Holding him in those last moments, could of never been any other way with that kind of love..
Thank you for sharing that love with us readers and know I will be praying for you to find comfort and solace. Love, Cynthia
Agnes I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. All my prayers are with you.
I am not very god at expressing myself in such moments and nothing I say will ever be enough.
I really am very sorry.
Oh God, Agnes. My deepest condolences to you and wish you loads of strength. Despite not knowing Geoff and you personally, I feel a sense of loss. I will pray for his soul and for you. Lots of love, Rachna
OMG !!! OMG !!!! I am so sorry....I was totally out of blogs...My Dad died last month.
Agnes, I am not on the same boat like you...for me it was my Dad and for you, your life partner. But I think, that you've tried your best in healing him and even Geoff has tried his best in fighting against his cancer.
Even my Dad was hospitalised for 2 months in Intensive Care and finally we lost the battle.
But the only thing is we tried and he tried. Thats the thought that'll help us ride through this storm after the death of a loved one.
Keep strong....write more....put down your thoughts...let them all come out of your heart, till you become light inside.
Or pour out your thoughts to your friend nearby.
Lots of hugs and love sent your way, to make u feel a little better. Take care dear.
May you have enough strength to bear this loss. I am so sorry Agnes. Please rest and take care of yourself... I am sure, with all his love Geoff will always be around you but we will terribly miss his comments on your blog :'(
((Hugs)).
Very sorry. I know nothing helps now, and won't for what will seem like a very long time. If you have close ones near you to hold on to, do it. Even if it only feels worse to do so. Hold on to them... hold on to God. Mostly, just hold on. Better comes later, but it does come.
Hi Agnes! It's been a while since I last read your post....I'm a bit busy. So sorry to hear the news...no words can console your lonely heart and soul...I'll pray that in God's time you will find peace of mind...please accept our dearest condolences to you and your family...
Dear Agnes,
When you were silent for so many days, I got afraid.
I can imagine what you must be going thru. Hope you have your family n friends with you to support you thru this phase.
We all cant be there with you personally but you know that we all are concerned about you.
It is only your blog which is the connect between us but still your little sentence made me cry.
May God give you strength.
May Geoff's soul rest in peace.
A warm hug from a virtual friend in India.
I'm so sorry, Agnes. I DO know what you are going through as I lost my husband of 37 years some 11 years ago. Believe me when I say you will find inner strength you don't even know you have and you will get through this. Handling grief is a very personal thing and none of us do it the same way. God's Grace will see you through. Your memories and friends will always be there to draw upon. Take care of yourself and your own health....try to hold on that that independent spirit that your blog so reflects. {{{{HUGS}}}}
What do you say about something that was hoped would not happen? I think of Geoff and two things come to my mind. How helpful he was to me and my husband over in India when I was fighting for my life. And how much I appreciated his care and concern in keeping things together for me, when he hardly even knew me. And, how he (through you) turned me onto Kerpal and made me laugh for days and days. I know that is not very deep, but, that meant so much to me to be able to laugh for days and days over something so silly and it made life not so serious during that time period. I will remember that for a long time to come.
In regard to your loss, Agnes, I cannot even imagine. You have been through so much. It's obvious that you have put Geoff ahead of yourself and fought a hard fight. You did everything that you could.
I wish the best for Geoff and his future where ever it is that he ventures off to. I know that you will get through this. There are many people counting on you to continue to be who you are and communicate in the way that only you can! You are a loving and beautiful person. Thank you for being that way and for being my friend. You are in my thoughts.
What can I say to ease your pain? Sadly, there are no words that can lift you from your sorrow and misery. Only you can bring that about.
I know, it is hard for you to think beyond the emotions seizing your mind. “Why Geoff?” you cry. It is all so unfair.
I understand your overwhelming grief. My wife was killed crossing the road 23 years ago and I still feel the pain. Deeply.
I have no answers for you. For you see, there is only the Universe. But what an “only” that is. The thinking process that evolution gave us can merely marvel at it. But it is more amazing than anything our minds can comprehend. Don’t try. Just accept that “it is”....as everything “just is”.
But the Universe is so unfeeling and uncaring, you say. It does not notice how piteous are we poor sentient beings who can feel pain and sorrow. That is true. But wait. Why should we be pitied when we can also feel happiness and love?
Keep in your mind the happiness and love you felt with Geoff. It will make you cry. But it will also be a balm.
Dearest Agnes, Geoff shared so many gifts of beauty and wisdom. I hope this will give you strenght as you allow yourself time to heal. I have no doubt his spirit will be with you always and in all ways, as your journey continues. Love,
just started to follow your posts by accident, or was it? i am truly sad for you.......can feel the sorrow and lostness. my thoughts and care are with you.......
Agnes~ You are forever in my thoughts and prayers...I feel a bit intrusive reading your post, as I am but a fellow blog reader, but I am truly sorry for your loss and I wish you much peace and comfort during this time! xo
My dearest Agnes,
Words can not convey the sadness I feel in my heart and soul for you and the loss you are now enduring. You are in my thoughts and my prayers. Take care of yourself!
Ann
Agnes, I'm so sorry.....was really hoping to read that he was getting better. Havent been logging in frequently but U and Geoff were in my prayers all the time. Even now I cant believe it.
I always loved the comments he left u and his humourous take on life had me smiling long afterwards. I really dont know how to make u feel better, there is this tight feeling inside my chest.
Agnes, I haven't been checking in recently but yesterday I just decided to see how things were going for you. I couldn't find the words then and all I can say now is how deeply sorry I am to hear of Geoff's passing. He certainly had his soul mate in you. I woke up this morning trying to imagine your pain but I know I haven't come any way near it. Rest in the knowledge Agnes that you were with Geoff in both of your every waking and sleeping moments. He left this world in the arms of his dearest love making his passing surely somewhat easier. I'm sending you healing thoughts Agnes, you are in my prayers. Look after yourself.
Love and Hugs,
Ann
I am truly truly truly sorry.
Hugs.
No words can take away the pain.
No words can heal.
It is easy to say things like 'time will take care'.
'He is in a better place now' and all that.
But it still hurts.
Like hell.
When my dad passed away in June 2003, I was so numb that I could hardly feel anything. But in time, I realised that my daddy and best friend had joined the realm of eternal life. And I was glad for him. Souls live for ever!
I am so sorry for your loss Agnes. Words cannot heal, only time does. I always hoped I'd read something interesting about your escapades when I remembered you this morning. This is so unexpected and unfair.
And now I feel guilty that I wasn't here for you. Isn't that crazy?
I can say I'm sorry...and I am.
Death is an amazing thing. An incredible, awful, thing that over time...when we can peek our heads out and look around...teaches us things we thought only past generations knew.
You'll never forget him. I don't need to tell you that. And that's a good thing. (Even though it feels like hell...)
I have no words. I am so sorry.
Posted by: Ed Plunkett | January 09, 2011 at 08:59 AM
OMG, Agnes I am so sorry.... Hon, the only comfort u can find in this, is that he is free of pain....Remember the good and funny times... I know exactly what u r going thru...((HUGS))
Posted by: chrissy | January 09, 2011 at 09:24 AM
Agnes, I am so sorry to hear this.. I have been just a follower for over a year, and only posted one time.. You have a beautiful spirit about you, and I will say a prayer for you today..
Posted by: Julie Elder | January 09, 2011 at 09:26 AM
Agnes, I just learned the sad news, I send all my support and hope that your youth and your mental strength will help you overcome this difficult moment.
Posted by: feeltheheat | January 09, 2011 at 09:45 AM
Agnes, he was at peace having the person who loved him most holding him as he left. I wish peace for you as you are held by those close to you and by us who are distant in miles but very close in love.
Marty
Posted by: Marty, The Napkin Dad | January 09, 2011 at 09:57 AM
Agnes, so sorry to hear this. Despite knowing only what you put in this blog about you, my heart goes out to you, your family, and Geoff's family. I wish I could do something other than that, but I cannot unfortunately. I cannot even say "I know how it feels" because I do not. So, just take your time, do what you have to do and we'll be sure to wait for your next blog even if it's a few months from now.
-Richard
Posted by: Thirtyandawesome.blogspot.com | January 09, 2011 at 10:01 AM
Oh my god that's devastating news. I don't know what to say.
Posted by: Mark Russell | January 09, 2011 at 10:13 AM
Oh Agnes. I so hoped it would be good news. I am so sorry. I have no words. But I do have tears to shed with you. All I can offer you right now is a long-distance friendship. And hope. Be strong sweet Agnes. hugs xx
Posted by: Loree | January 09, 2011 at 10:51 AM
I am so sorry for your loss, your sorrow, your pain. Day by day is the way back, but it's a slow process. Geoff will always live in your heart and thoughts. The heartbreak will ease and joy will take its place as you recall your wonderful life together.
Posted by: linda roth | January 09, 2011 at 11:08 AM
Oh, dear Agnes...my heart goes out to you. I am so sorry. Thank you so much for finding the strength to share this sad news with us. How beautiful (for both of you) that Geoff died in your arms.
Hugs and Prayers,
Susan
Posted by: Sarsaparilla | January 09, 2011 at 11:23 AM
You were the very best wife and life's partner to Geoff, Agnes. You taught us all how to be loving and caring and strong. How to be better humans than we are.
We mourn Geoff's passing away.
Posted by: Rider | January 09, 2011 at 11:39 AM
Agnes, I am so sorry. You're in my prayers.
Posted by: Barbara | January 09, 2011 at 11:42 AM
Agnes, I am so sorry to read this. I have been thinking a lot about you lately. I know that no word will ease your pain. I am thinking of you. Remember the happy times. Geoff and your love for each other will always be there, in your heart.
hugs
lots of love,
Karine
Posted by: karine | January 09, 2011 at 11:45 AM
Agnes, my heart goes out to yours and I am so very sorry for your terrible loss. Please know that there are many who care.
love and hugs, Kate
Posted by: Kate I | January 09, 2011 at 12:16 PM
I am SO SO sorry to hear this Agnes. You are in my prayers and I hope God gives you the strength to cope with this.
Posted by: Prashanti | January 09, 2011 at 12:40 PM
I am so sorry Agnes, I had hoped that things would take a turn for the better. You have so many beautiful memories and I hope you can embrace those. My thoughts are with you.
Posted by: Andi | January 09, 2011 at 12:46 PM
I am shocked to hear this... I'm so shocked...
I just knew things would get better, he would be better and we'll have you both back again... But...
Sending you my tiny hugs and a shoulder, though it might not count for much, that's all I can send across so many miles...
Have strength dear Agnes... Please have strength.
Posted by: Mehreen | January 09, 2011 at 01:38 PM
Terribly sorry to hear this news. Having only been a follower for a short time, I could still see the deep love you both shared for one another. That is not gone.
Take care, thinking of you during this difficult time.
Posted by: Lauren | January 09, 2011 at 02:34 PM
I'm really sorry to hear this Agnes. I will light a candle for you this week and I'm sending all my positive energy your way.
Posted by: www.boeingbleudemer.com | January 09, 2011 at 02:40 PM
Agnes, I am just devastated for you. I am so, so sorry.
Posted by: Megan | January 09, 2011 at 03:04 PM
Dear Agnes...another long time (kinda) reader, first time poster. In tears over your loss, though, as others have said, I know only what you have revealed online and Geoff, less. I remembered however seeing a comment or two here and there from him. I think I like this one best...his words first: "Cancer doesn't scare me and the possibility of death doesn't frighten me. I simply feel that the diagnosis is a death sentence eventually, just like life is. It is the denial of time and energy that should be used to create the future that is the most difficult part...." and then he quotes Cicero: "Be sure that it is not you that is mortal, but only your body. For that man whom your outward form reveals is not yourself; the spirit is the true self, not that physical figure which can be pointed out by your finger." Thank you, Agnes for introducing us to Geoff. Though his body has been painfully torn away from you it's clear to even the casual reader your true selves, your spirits are even now forever united. God bless you as you grieve, mourn, reminisce, cry and hurt...and may you find comfort and solace in unexpected places.
Posted by: Robert | January 09, 2011 at 03:19 PM
Oh Agnes, no. I am so, so sorry. I know your heart must be breaking but I hope in time (and even now) the precious memories you have will sustain you and once again make you smile. Blessings to you and safe journey to Geoff.
Posted by: Kerry | January 09, 2011 at 03:21 PM
Oh my gosh. I was just thinking about you yesterday. Really. I'm so sorry for your loss... There are no words. I have come to love and admire you guys so much through your blog and the things you share of your life. I'm sure you will find the strength, you are a strong woman that's for sure. Your blog is a beautiful documentation of your love and devotion to Geoff. Take good care of yourself, my dear. Big hug and kiss..
Posted by: Biana | January 09, 2011 at 05:21 PM
I am so sorry Agnes. I wish I could give you any words of comfort.
Posted by: Rosemary | January 09, 2011 at 05:27 PM
Agnes, my brother died in my arms 10 years ago. It's as emotional for me today as it was then. I know that these comments to you are probably a blur ... Hopefully a comfort ... But truly an outpouring of love from all your admirers. If you ever want to talk to another about this experience ... I would be happy to share. Much love, Joel
Posted by: Joel Momberg | January 09, 2011 at 05:32 PM
..Sorry.!.
I believe you will meet each
other..somewhere..someway...
Posted by: Jorge Alonso Pagliarini | January 09, 2011 at 05:35 PM
I know there are no words, but I still want to say I'm sorry. I am devastated to hear of your loss. Geoff was so lucky to have such a wonderful wife. Please take good care of yourself. {{{HUGS}}}
Posted by: Michelle | January 09, 2011 at 05:37 PM
I wish there were words. I wish there was something I could say. I wish things were different.
I'm so sorry.
Posted by: Sylvia | January 09, 2011 at 05:42 PM
My sweet Agnes, I am so terribly sorry :(. ..My thoughts and prayers go out to you and Geoff's family.
Sending my love to help you through this tough time xo
Posted by: Leigh Viner | January 09, 2011 at 05:49 PM
Agnes, my compassion to you both, the beautiful team.
Much love,
Jane
Posted by: Jane Baer | January 09, 2011 at 05:49 PM
I'm so sorry Agnes.
Posted by: Cathy | January 09, 2011 at 05:55 PM
My best to you.
Posted by: William | January 09, 2011 at 05:57 PM
Agnes. No words, I cannot believe it. I hope you will find the strength to make it through this.
All the best to you,
Julius
Posted by: Julius | January 09, 2011 at 06:18 PM
Dearest Agnes, thinking of you during this most difficult time.
{hugs}
Miriam
Posted by: Miriam | January 09, 2011 at 07:20 PM
I am so very sorry Agnes! I was thinking of you the other night and prayed for you and Geoff before I fell asleep. I have to agree with the others who said that you and Geoff are soulmates and will meet again. Thank you for sharing your wonderful relationship with him on your blog. I loved reading his sweet, loving comments to you in the comment section. My heart just hurts for you and Geoff's family. I'll keep praying.
Posted by: Heather Landry | January 09, 2011 at 07:30 PM
I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry.
Posted by: Reenie | January 09, 2011 at 07:56 PM
Agnes, i'm so very sorry to hear about Geoff, be strong and my prayers are for you during this difficult time. *Hugs.
Love Hans.
Posted by: theBluesman | January 09, 2011 at 08:01 PM
He was lucky to have you with him through it all.
Posted by: Patti Murphy | January 09, 2011 at 08:14 PM
Agnes my love, literally I couldn't open your blog update email today. I just knew what it was going to say. Finally, after about 5 minutes I opened it and as soon as I saw your words I teared up. Saying I'm sorry for your loss just doesn't even come close to what I feel. Please know that I am here for you in ANY way. I'm sending you much love and hoping that your heart is able to heal with time.
Posted by: Andi | January 09, 2011 at 08:44 PM
Oh Agnes... I do not even know what to begin to say. This is such a irreplaceable loss. I remember being so touched by the comments he left you, the love.... his beautiful spirit. Holding him in those last moments, could of never been any other way with that kind of love..
Thank you for sharing that love with us readers and know I will be praying for you to find comfort and solace. Love, Cynthia
Posted by: Cynthia | January 09, 2011 at 09:31 PM
Agnes, so sorry for your loss. My your memories give you strength in this difficult time. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.
Mason
Thoughts in Progress
Posted by: Mason Canyon | January 09, 2011 at 10:39 PM
Agnes I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you. All my prayers are with you.
I am not very god at expressing myself in such moments and nothing I say will ever be enough.
I really am very sorry.
Posted by: kiran | January 09, 2011 at 11:06 PM
Oh God, Agnes. My deepest condolences to you and wish you loads of strength. Despite not knowing Geoff and you personally, I feel a sense of loss. I will pray for his soul and for you. Lots of love, Rachna
Posted by: Rachna | January 09, 2011 at 11:25 PM
OMG !!! OMG !!!! I am so sorry....I was totally out of blogs...My Dad died last month.
Agnes, I am not on the same boat like you...for me it was my Dad and for you, your life partner. But I think, that you've tried your best in healing him and even Geoff has tried his best in fighting against his cancer.
Even my Dad was hospitalised for 2 months in Intensive Care and finally we lost the battle.
But the only thing is we tried and he tried. Thats the thought that'll help us ride through this storm after the death of a loved one.
Keep strong....write more....put down your thoughts...let them all come out of your heart, till you become light inside.
Or pour out your thoughts to your friend nearby.
Lots of hugs and love sent your way, to make u feel a little better. Take care dear.
Posted by: UmaS | January 09, 2011 at 11:40 PM
May you have enough strength to bear this loss. I am so sorry Agnes. Please rest and take care of yourself... I am sure, with all his love Geoff will always be around you but we will terribly miss his comments on your blog :'(
((Hugs)).
Posted by: Tara | January 10, 2011 at 12:03 AM
Really sorry Agnes. I had hoped it would be different...
Posted by: deepti | January 10, 2011 at 01:34 AM
Oh Agnes - this is the saddest news. I have missed you and your blogging so much. I feel heartbroken for you. All my love.
Posted by: Kate | January 10, 2011 at 01:35 AM
Oh my God!
RIP, Rockstar.
God be with you, Agnes.
I dont know what else to say....
Posted by: Soul | January 10, 2011 at 01:50 AM
I'm so sorry for your loss. In tears..
Posted by: Iqra | January 10, 2011 at 01:51 AM
I know that nothing anybody can say will help reduce the pain...but please do know that we are all with you...and our prayers!
Posted by: Wannabewriter | January 10, 2011 at 03:58 AM
Agnes,
Very sorry. I know nothing helps now, and won't for what will seem like a very long time. If you have close ones near you to hold on to, do it. Even if it only feels worse to do so. Hold on to them... hold on to God. Mostly, just hold on. Better comes later, but it does come.
Bill
Posted by: Bill Friday | January 10, 2011 at 04:00 AM
This is so very sad. You have many people praying for you and sending you their condolences. Please add me to this very long list.
Posted by: Expat Again | January 10, 2011 at 04:20 AM
Hi Agnes! It's been a while since I last read your post....I'm a bit busy. So sorry to hear the news...no words can console your lonely heart and soul...I'll pray that in God's time you will find peace of mind...please accept our dearest condolences to you and your family...
Posted by: Amelia | January 10, 2011 at 05:44 AM
Hugs and prayers Agnes!
Posted by: Swaram | January 10, 2011 at 05:44 AM
Dear Agnes,
When you were silent for so many days, I got afraid.
I can imagine what you must be going thru. Hope you have your family n friends with you to support you thru this phase.
We all cant be there with you personally but you know that we all are concerned about you.
It is only your blog which is the connect between us but still your little sentence made me cry.
May God give you strength.
May Geoff's soul rest in peace.
A warm hug from a virtual friend in India.
I will include you in my prayers.
Posted by: Raji | January 10, 2011 at 05:59 AM
So sorry Agnes. If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. bd
Posted by: bd | January 10, 2011 at 08:53 AM
hmm...I am sorry....dear Agnes.
May Allah give you strength to cope with the pain and sorrow...Amen.
Posted by: Thinking | January 10, 2011 at 11:17 AM
I'm so sorry Agnes. Hugs to you dear. Sending lots of love your way. As others have said, if you need to talk I'm here too.
Posted by: Dori | January 10, 2011 at 12:29 PM
I'm so sorry, Agnes. I DO know what you are going through as I lost my husband of 37 years some 11 years ago. Believe me when I say you will find inner strength you don't even know you have and you will get through this. Handling grief is a very personal thing and none of us do it the same way. God's Grace will see you through. Your memories and friends will always be there to draw upon. Take care of yourself and your own health....try to hold on that that independent spirit that your blog so reflects. {{{{HUGS}}}}
Posted by: Tillie | January 10, 2011 at 01:57 PM
Praying for you and Geoff. I hope all of the comments bring you a small measure of comfort. I'm giving you a big cyber hug dear.
Posted by: Candiss | January 10, 2011 at 02:13 PM
Oh Agnes. I cannot even fathom such a loss. You are in my heart, thoughts and prayers.
Posted by: Amanda Conley | January 10, 2011 at 08:11 PM
Dear Agnes,
What do you say about something that was hoped would not happen? I think of Geoff and two things come to my mind. How helpful he was to me and my husband over in India when I was fighting for my life. And how much I appreciated his care and concern in keeping things together for me, when he hardly even knew me. And, how he (through you) turned me onto Kerpal and made me laugh for days and days. I know that is not very deep, but, that meant so much to me to be able to laugh for days and days over something so silly and it made life not so serious during that time period. I will remember that for a long time to come.
In regard to your loss, Agnes, I cannot even imagine. You have been through so much. It's obvious that you have put Geoff ahead of yourself and fought a hard fight. You did everything that you could.
I wish the best for Geoff and his future where ever it is that he ventures off to. I know that you will get through this. There are many people counting on you to continue to be who you are and communicate in the way that only you can! You are a loving and beautiful person. Thank you for being that way and for being my friend. You are in my thoughts.
Posted by: Robyn | January 10, 2011 at 11:21 PM
What can I say to ease your pain? Sadly, there are no words that can lift you from your sorrow and misery. Only you can bring that about.
I know, it is hard for you to think beyond the emotions seizing your mind. “Why Geoff?” you cry. It is all so unfair.
I understand your overwhelming grief. My wife was killed crossing the road 23 years ago and I still feel the pain. Deeply.
I have no answers for you. For you see, there is only the Universe. But what an “only” that is. The thinking process that evolution gave us can merely marvel at it. But it is more amazing than anything our minds can comprehend. Don’t try. Just accept that “it is”....as everything “just is”.
But the Universe is so unfeeling and uncaring, you say. It does not notice how piteous are we poor sentient beings who can feel pain and sorrow. That is true. But wait. Why should we be pitied when we can also feel happiness and love?
Keep in your mind the happiness and love you felt with Geoff. It will make you cry. But it will also be a balm.
My thoughts are with you.
Ian Stewart
Posted by: Ian Stewart | January 10, 2011 at 11:22 PM
I am so sorry to read this. Along with everyone else, thinking of you from far away.
Posted by: Mie | January 11, 2011 at 12:48 AM
It will be alright. There is God somewhere. And He will give you the courage to walk through. Believe.
Posted by: C | January 11, 2011 at 02:39 AM
Dearest Agnes, Geoff shared so many gifts of beauty and wisdom. I hope this will give you strenght as you allow yourself time to heal. I have no doubt his spirit will be with you always and in all ways, as your journey continues. Love,
Helen
Posted by: Helen | January 11, 2011 at 06:40 AM
just started to follow your posts by accident, or was it? i am truly sad for you.......can feel the sorrow and lostness. my thoughts and care are with you.......
Posted by: jferg419 | January 11, 2011 at 11:29 AM
Agnes~ You are forever in my thoughts and prayers...I feel a bit intrusive reading your post, as I am but a fellow blog reader, but I am truly sorry for your loss and I wish you much peace and comfort during this time! xo
Posted by: aubrey hall | January 11, 2011 at 11:12 PM
My dearest Agnes,
Words can not convey the sadness I feel in my heart and soul for you and the loss you are now enduring. You are in my thoughts and my prayers. Take care of yourself!
Ann
Posted by: Ann | January 12, 2011 at 12:53 PM
I am so, so sorry. Prayers for you.
Posted by: Yat Yee Chong | January 13, 2011 at 01:39 PM
Sweetheart,
Oh my dear no words will express ... my heart to yours.
Love,
Theresa and Joe Hall
"Sleeping Kitten-Dancing Dog!"
Posted by: Theresa H Hall | January 13, 2011 at 08:10 PM
Agnes, I'm so sorry.....was really hoping to read that he was getting better. Havent been logging in frequently but U and Geoff were in my prayers all the time. Even now I cant believe it.
I always loved the comments he left u and his humourous take on life had me smiling long afterwards. I really dont know how to make u feel better, there is this tight feeling inside my chest.
Posted by: Nancy | January 15, 2011 at 12:51 AM
His Love and Memories never will...I am literally shaking , and dont have the words to express my feelings right now... My prayers always with You.
Posted by: Arti | January 15, 2011 at 06:06 AM
Agnes, I haven't been checking in recently but yesterday I just decided to see how things were going for you. I couldn't find the words then and all I can say now is how deeply sorry I am to hear of Geoff's passing. He certainly had his soul mate in you. I woke up this morning trying to imagine your pain but I know I haven't come any way near it. Rest in the knowledge Agnes that you were with Geoff in both of your every waking and sleeping moments. He left this world in the arms of his dearest love making his passing surely somewhat easier. I'm sending you healing thoughts Agnes, you are in my prayers. Look after yourself.
Love and Hugs,
Ann
Posted by: Ann Brien | January 15, 2011 at 07:03 AM
You were there, he died in your arms! My heart goes out to you. Just know so many people are saddened by you loss and only wish the best for you.
Posted by: Judy Harper | January 15, 2011 at 03:55 PM
So sorry to hear this news Agnes, Kia kaha (Maori for 'keep strong'). Cherish the memories. Love, Kay
Posted by: Kay McKenzie Cooke | January 15, 2011 at 04:05 PM
Oh, Agnes. Such simple, devastating words. I wish for you peace and love and light in this mourning. You are in my thoughts. <3
Posted by: Michele M. S. Shimchock | January 15, 2011 at 09:16 PM
I sympathize with your loss AGnes....I'm sorry to hear these news. I am praying for you and your family. My deepest condolences.
Posted by: Account Deleted | January 16, 2011 at 04:44 AM
i am so sorry, agnes. i cannot even imagine what you are going through. you are in my prayers.
Posted by: liz | January 16, 2011 at 11:18 PM
So sorry for your pain. I had missed seeing your blog and then such sad news. God bless. He was so young!
Posted by: Carol Allen Anfinsen | January 17, 2011 at 08:00 PM
I am truly truly truly sorry.
Hugs.
No words can take away the pain.
No words can heal.
It is easy to say things like 'time will take care'.
'He is in a better place now' and all that.
But it still hurts.
Like hell.
Prayers and hugs
Preeti
Posted by: Preeti Shenoy | January 18, 2011 at 04:10 AM
When my dad passed away in June 2003, I was so numb that I could hardly feel anything. But in time, I realised that my daddy and best friend had joined the realm of eternal life. And I was glad for him. Souls live for ever!
Posted by: Anastasia | January 18, 2011 at 04:25 PM
OHH God
Posted by: Appu | January 19, 2011 at 12:37 AM
Blessings to you during this time. In our prayers...
Keith
Posted by: Weapher | January 19, 2011 at 02:11 AM
I am in tears Agnes. Very sorry for your loss.
Posted by: shalmalee | January 20, 2011 at 01:21 AM
Dear Agnes,
Came Via Doreen's site.
I understand how much it hurts. Twenty one years ago, my baby died in my arms.
Love,
Ann
Posted by: ann chin | January 24, 2011 at 04:56 AM
That sucks so much and I'm so sorry. My heart goes out to you.
Posted by: vange | February 02, 2011 at 12:02 AM
I am so sorry for your loss Agnes. Words cannot heal, only time does. I always hoped I'd read something interesting about your escapades when I remembered you this morning. This is so unexpected and unfair.
Take care and some more care...
Posted by: lostworld | February 08, 2011 at 11:21 PM
And now I feel guilty that I wasn't here for you. Isn't that crazy?
I can say I'm sorry...and I am.
Death is an amazing thing. An incredible, awful, thing that over time...when we can peek our heads out and look around...teaches us things we thought only past generations knew.
You'll never forget him. I don't need to tell you that. And that's a good thing. (Even though it feels like hell...)
Posted by: Andy Koehn | January 02, 2012 at 10:24 PM